Making a decision to seek professional counseling when struggling with very personal issues is not always an easy choice to make. Many of us would prefer to work through problems on our own, and while this may be a natural first step in the process, sometimes we need more to get through difficult times, or to grow and progress in the way we’d like.
Therapy is an experiential opportunity to openly explore thoughts, ideas, and feelings in a place where you are actively heard. We all have a fundamental need to feel understood and known, to gain self-insight, to forgive or be forgiven – sometimes by ourselves. When another ‘gets us’, something shifts inside and we begin to ‘get’ ourselves on a whole other level.
Therapy helps us to consider what our beliefs are, how they affect the decisions and outcomes in our lives, and whether or not our perceptions are serving us in a beneficial way. It provides an opportunity to identify and strengthen positive attributes and concepts, and reconstruct negative patterns of thought and behavior.
New brain science teaches us that when we share with others who accept and receive us with openness, acceptance and love, our brain literally changes. It is in this way that our brains are adaptable and that is really good news, because positive change brings about positive re-wiring, and positive re-wiring brings about more positive change.
So instead of asking “Why me?” we can accept life’s hardships and see them as rich opportunities to explore, learn and grow. It is in these difficult times that we are forced to step out of the trance of everyday living, and find the truer meanings of our lives. We endure the suffering because, in it, we discover the riches of healing and our own personal evolution.