One of the tenets of the Buddha’s teachings is “Right Speech”, which refers to our need as civilized human beings to speak in truth and in non-harmful ways. This can be, for many of us, a particularly difficult rule to follow. It seems most societies have been conditioned to several forms of negative speech such as gossip, slander, and hurtful statements. We usually assume that so long as the victim doesn’t hear our hurtful words, our comments are ultimately harmless, but in reality that is not the case.
The energy of our words is powerful and may be used as immensely good or immensely bad. Henry Grayson, author of the book “Mindful Loving” conducted his own experiment to validate how an understanding of the new physics plays out in relationships. What he demonstrated was that after his car rides home from work, during which he ruminated about all the things that made him angry about his wife, she was either nowhere to be found when he got home or she was in an irritated and rejecting mood. However, after the drives during which he thought of all the things he loved about his wife, she frequently met him at the door, happy to see him.
We can say these are just coincidences, however research has often validated this finding. Besides, what would be the harm in following it as truth? As Grayson states “That which we focus on increases”, so if we direct our attention to things that make us happy, we will be more apt to find ourselves in better and more loving moods.
So as we move into the new year, consider implementing “Right Speech” into your communication habits and watch what manifests…
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